My husband frequently reminds me that our marriage was in part based on a lie. Yes. He says it's true but please continue reading so I can explain. Here's the story.
The very first night we met, John said he enjoyed skiing. I then said I LOVED skiing. Okay that was a little lie. Then I proceeded to say I skied all the time. BIG lie!!!! I just wanted him to like me. Oh that was bad! Well I can honestly say, deceitful is not a word I would use to describe myself. However perhaps this night, I was a tad dishonest. The truth of the matter is I would LOVE to love skiing and if I did LOVE it, I'ld be happy to go ALL the time. The second truth is I am afraid to ski because I am so bad at it.
Well when John was still under the presumption that I LOVED it and went all the time, we made plans to go on a trip to Zermatt Switzerland. We stated at the Hotel Alex. We had been dating for a little under year. It did not take long for John to learn the truth about me. Skiing in the Alps very different than skiing in the states. I was miserable after my first day skiing. On the second day, John signed me up for ski school. I was the only one who spoke English. That was awful too. Needless to say, I tried skiing a couple more days, and then hung up my skis. I shopped and walked around the small town rather than ski. Though I wasn't thrilled with the skiing aspect of Zermatt, I did love it there. It was truly a magical place.
Well I am sad about the fact that I was a bit dishonest to John in the beginning. Do you think he could divorce me based on this premise?!?! lol Well in honor of our 10th wedding anniversary this year, I am going to try to make good on my word. Since the boys are getting older, (in fact John already knows how to ski) I plan to dawn the skis again this winter. I know that my husband would love nothing more than a ski partner. Yes. I think he would love a ski partner so much that it's probably a good thing for that little lie. I wouldn't make it a habit, but maybe that one time a little white lie brought us together. What do you think? ;)
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Sunday, November 4, 2007
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Thoughts for Thursdays
What was I doing ten years ago???? Every so often I reminisce. In some ways ten years seems so long ago. In other ways, it some ways I feel I blinked my eyes and ten years have passed, quickly!!!
Ten years ago, I was newly married, only for a month and half. I was working full time at our community hospital. I worked days and my husband worked nights. We really didn't see much of each other. In some ways that was good, and others it was bad. No one ever told me how hard the first year of marriage really is. Like any life change, this was such an adjustment. Every day I was so home sick. I only moved 2 miles away from the house, where I grew up. Yet, it seemed like I was hours away. Seriously, I would start to drive to my parents' house after work by accident. I remember feeling so lonely when John was working at night and there was no one else in my house. Growing up there was always some one at home, albeit my mother, father, or one of my sisters. Being alone at night was some thing I had to get used to.
I think the first year of marriage brings out a lot of your differences, sometimes for the good, and sometimes for the bad. I remember arguing about such simple things like the heat and at what temperature it should be set. Dinners were another bone of contention. I know some one would have been happy with take-out every night. While I on the other hand, tried to cook home-made meals. I think in that first year, you realize just how different you both might really be. I really think that first year is soooo much more challenging than anyone would tell you.
In that year, that I think you really learn grow as a couple. I know I just let a lot of stuff go. I learned that the petty stuff was just that, petty and insignificant. I learned that it is sooo much easier to act as a team rather than an opponent. I learned that there will be a lot of fun times, but also some more serious times.
I would never want to scare a newlywed by telling them what I think about the first year. I think that would be kind of mean. I wouldn't want to take away from the magical thoughts of a wedding and marriage. However, if someone ever said they thought it was hard, I would tell them they are right. It is hard but I genuinely believe it gets so much better.
Here I am ten years later. I can tell you that ten years have not been easy by any means but it really has been ten awesome years! Of course there are times when I might feel like running away but all in all, if I made it through that first year, I am staying.
Perhaps this post is two-fold, but I ask:
Where were you ten years ago?
If you are married, what did you think of the first year?
Some other tft bloggers:
Mary
Nicole
Jenny
Kristi
Heather
Jenny
Zoe
Ten years ago, I was newly married, only for a month and half. I was working full time at our community hospital. I worked days and my husband worked nights. We really didn't see much of each other. In some ways that was good, and others it was bad. No one ever told me how hard the first year of marriage really is. Like any life change, this was such an adjustment. Every day I was so home sick. I only moved 2 miles away from the house, where I grew up. Yet, it seemed like I was hours away. Seriously, I would start to drive to my parents' house after work by accident. I remember feeling so lonely when John was working at night and there was no one else in my house. Growing up there was always some one at home, albeit my mother, father, or one of my sisters. Being alone at night was some thing I had to get used to.
I think the first year of marriage brings out a lot of your differences, sometimes for the good, and sometimes for the bad. I remember arguing about such simple things like the heat and at what temperature it should be set. Dinners were another bone of contention. I know some one would have been happy with take-out every night. While I on the other hand, tried to cook home-made meals. I think in that first year, you realize just how different you both might really be. I really think that first year is soooo much more challenging than anyone would tell you.
In that year, that I think you really learn grow as a couple. I know I just let a lot of stuff go. I learned that the petty stuff was just that, petty and insignificant. I learned that it is sooo much easier to act as a team rather than an opponent. I learned that there will be a lot of fun times, but also some more serious times.
I would never want to scare a newlywed by telling them what I think about the first year. I think that would be kind of mean. I wouldn't want to take away from the magical thoughts of a wedding and marriage. However, if someone ever said they thought it was hard, I would tell them they are right. It is hard but I genuinely believe it gets so much better.
Here I am ten years later. I can tell you that ten years have not been easy by any means but it really has been ten awesome years! Of course there are times when I might feel like running away but all in all, if I made it through that first year, I am staying.
Perhaps this post is two-fold, but I ask:
Where were you ten years ago?
If you are married, what did you think of the first year?
Some other tft bloggers:
Mary
Nicole
Jenny
Kristi
Heather
Jenny
Zoe
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